Tuesday, June 2, 2009

PLEASE, PLEASE pray for us and when bad things happen to good people...

Things have been going along pretty well until today. Today at 4:39 I received an e-mail that said we will not be able to keep the referral we have. Truly my heart is just breaking as I type. Oh please bloggy friends, please pray for us. 

Here is the situation. Our Ad*m W*lsh came back saying my husband was on probation. That is not accurate, that is not true- we have a lawyer working on it to straighten it out but the words fast, courts and lawyers never go together. Everything in our judicial system is SLOW, oh so slow.

Last summer my husband was getting a parking ticket by a meter maid. When she found out he had other outstanding parking tickets she told him she was going to tow his car. Jim worked as a lawyer for 20 yrs until going with the company he is currently with- he knows she does not have the authority to tow his car OR to arrest him. He nicely said give me the ticket and I am going home I will pay them tomorrow, I promise. She got mad at him and had a police man around the corner arrested him. There was absolutely no alcohol involved, nothing else happened, he did not fight it, he just went to the police station. He did ask "why am I being arrested?" and they couldn't even give him an answer. Even the police officers in the squad car said "this is weird you haven't even been drinking what do write in the report?"

Because the police officers didn't think much of it and because the incident was so minor we never thought it would ever pose a problem. Hubby did hire an attorney to make sure it was not on his record because we knew we wanted to adopt again. We actually hired supposedly the best attorney in the state. When this came up on our AD*M W*LSH we were shocked- we were told by our lawyer that it was behind us and we were thankful for that BECAUSE we knew we had a child in China waiting for us. 

We are not the youngest parents- we have learned a lot throughout the years and one things we try to stick by is "keep a positive healthy outlook everyday". It is very easy to talk bad about someone or feel angry and want revenge but we have learned not to spread the negativity, it is never worth it.  My hubby sat in jail all night long with hardened criminals and he came home and found the positive in it. He said he was the only white guy in there (and wearing a suit I might add) and he conversed with all of the others and heard their stories and gained compassion and insight for their situations. (that is another blog post) It was a busier time in jail because it was right before the republican convention. We have tried to have a sense of humor about it and call the dear guy a jailbird but today I cannot find the humor. Our hearts are so saddened by what is happening. We have prayed and prayed over this referral and we know these are our daughters. When you wake up in the middle of the night thinking how you can work with them so they can feel comfortable and grow in their new family and in their new country- (one is shy and one is outgoing- yes, sisters) you know you are in deep and they are your daughters. On top of that they have completely stolen hubbies heart- which surprised me- but I am very happy they did!

Please, Please pray for us. Please pray that the hearts of our agency will soften and give us the time to get this rectified. Please pray that we will bring our girls home. Please pray that our lawyer and the judge will act quickly so that they do not give our referral for our daughters away. Please pray that our dear Lord will move mountains and the truth will prevail.

Because hubby has been a lawyer he knows we could sue-( I don't even know how to spell it) for unlawful arrest and unlawful incarceration and we would win BUT WE WOULD NEVER want to do that- we would not want to spend years of our this blessed life fighting in a court room.  We feel that it is best to say "Hey, they made a mistake now lets move on." 

I hope to someday laugh about this again but right now it is too painful. Please pray that we can bring our girls home.

Thank you so much for your kindness. My heart is so heavy tonight.

Please share this with others that will pray and you can link my post up to your blog. We meet with our agency on Thursday. Please pray that it is resolved in time for the meeting.


Nancy said...

Jean, I'm sorry for what you are going through, how disappointing. Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts your way.

Lori said...

Oh Jean. My heart is breaking for you. Please know that I am praying hard for you...very hard. The enemy is hard at work to stop your adoption and certainly is rearing his very ugly head with your current situation.

I will join you in fasting if you want to...just name the day.

Mandi said...

Oh Jean, I am so sorry to hear all of this. You can definitely count on prayers being sent your way from my family.


Laura L. said...

Hi Jean,
I'm so sorry to hear about this. Yes, I will pray for your family, the girls and all parties involved.

Sue said...

Jean I am so sorry to hear about this. As I think about yours and our situation...I do keep telling myself that we don't always understand what God has in mind for us and why it is happening this way, but somehow it works out. I will pray hard for you and your family.

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Mom Of Many said...

I was going to suggest fasting, but see that Lori already did. Just name the day and I'm in.

Prayers being sent from Colorado for God to soften the agency, for complete and perfect peace for you and your hubby as you wait and that our Miracle-working, Mountain-moving, Awe-inspiring, Gasp-giving God would part the Red Sea.

Much love xo

Sally- That Girl! said...

Will be on my knees praying for you and your girls tonight. I know your heart. I know these are your girls. LIke Lori said the enemy is at work. He sees you taking in two more fatherless children and wants to prevent it.

Praying in California for ya!

Joan said...

I am so sorry you are going through this. My prayers are with you. I am praying for you now and will continue to EVERY DAY.

Please Lord, Help this family bring their girls home.

Jennifer O'Cain said...

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Praying that things get straightened out quickly and that you get your girls!

Praying for ya'll, Jennifer

Number 6 and no more counting! said...

How awful. I am so sorry you are facing this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.


Lizzyf1 said...

Oh Jean my heart breaks for you. I will pray that God's will be done and you will have peace with His decision. This wait for adoption is hard enough without having this glitch. I will pray!!


Kim said...

I will be praying here in MO. We know that God is able to do more than ever imaginable! Hang in there!
Kim S

David and Sarah said...

Oh, I am praying, praying, praying. Were these girls on the AAC site?