Tuesday, October 20, 2009

BTW- Behind The Wheel...

We have been in no rush to get our just turned 16 yr old son his license. He is just not ready, he needs more time- he needs to be a bit more responsible and he needs to be more confident behind the wheel. I have been following his lead- I found with my other children that they kind of let us know when they were ready. Even after that we would wait for awhile until we think it is time! 

Son#1 was just too excited- there was trouble written all over the excitement. So we made him wait one month- big deal right- well he informed us that we had ruined his life... He has since forgiven us. And yes, he did get in a minor but expensive accident within the first month. It seemed an itty bitty tree was in the wrong spot... the next thing ya know he didn't have a mirror on the drivers side... I guess we should have waited longer...


So here we are with child #5. He took his behind the wheel early enough but was not motivated to get to classes regularly and pay much attention to the schedule. The dear boy finally finished the classes and then waited 2 months plus to get his permit. Which he has already lost...

He took one behind the wheel and then"got busy" with high school, soccer and life. We have been doing a bit of car rotating with the older kids so the car we want him to learn on has not always been at home. Here and there a sib may have had it!

Okay, so now it is time to schedule another behind the wheel.

I called to let them know what I needed and they politely and OH so happily stated "Your expired". I am sure she said it with a smile...

"I'm what?"

"You expired as of October 5th"...

"I what? What do ya mean?"

"That was your last day. Your six months to get your behind the wheel in was over on October 5th." I know she was still smiling..

"Your kidding me? He has only had his permit for 3 months. We were busy with school, soccer and the swine flu... He wasn't ready to continue with it, he needed more time."

"You can pay another $200 dollars and then take his last two behind the wheel lessons." I know this was a phone call but she enjoyed this way too much... I know she was still smiling...

"Excuse me, I need to put YOU on hold." Click... she did put me on hold... I did hang up so I could get more info from the potential driver.

When I called back she made it very clear that I did the hanging up. ya, ya, ya lady I needed to talk to my son...

Oh boy, was I getting a bit irritated... Honestly, come on, lighten up lady... I guess I signed this agreement - of course I didn't read whatever I signed. Yes, of course this is our fault- the potential driver and me- I was busy and paid no attention. I think what got me most was the pleasure she derived from this interaction. Not one word of- yes, I know, this is such a bummer, I am sorry, but we have to stick to our rules, and so on... I would have understood that and appreciated her kindness...

I had to have a little conversation with God about this. I am sure I was not as gracious as I should have been BUT she was gloating and it really bugged me... So I need to remember that not everything will go our way. We will make mistakes and sometimes they can be financially costly. Not everyone will respond the way I think they should. I just need to discuss this one with hubby and figure out what to do next...
 
I do plan to use this time to stall child #5 - he just isn't ready...

Hey, maybe this is what God had planned all along! 

Should I be thanking her- JK

6 comments:

Nancy said...

Arg! I would have asked (while smiling of course) to speak with her supervisor to see if there are other options or if they'd consider making an exception. And then wrap that conversation up with how your original call was handled. No harm in telling him/her your experience, you are the paying client.

And THEN I'd thank her :)

Lori said...

That's crazy! I would have been really irritated too!

Your process is WAY different from ours! Our kiddos can get their learner's permit at 14...drive anytime and anywhere with an adult, then at 15 can get a restricted license to drive alone to/from school and work. Then at 16 they get an unrestricted license. Brenden did all that and is doing great. Nick is almost 15 and we still haven't taken him to get his learner's permit (he's almost 15)! He reminds me constantly.

Ok, I'm not sure why I told you all that!

Jboo said...

Oh my -- I would have been irritated too- another $200!! Riding with my boys when they were new drivers is what totally turned my hair gray -- so nervewracking!

Janet

Chasity said...

Jean,
You said it perfectly, we do make mistakes and sometimes they do cost us, but I absolutely think this is the way to stall and allow Child #5 to have more time. Honestly, I pray they change the legal driving age to 18 before my 7 year old gets there. I will stall as long as I can. I hope it all works out for you, these days loosing money isn't something any of us wish to be a part of. God Bless your decisions.

Laura L. said...

Oh wow! Sorry to hear about this. Another $200? It's expensive enough as it is. :( It would be nice if they could make an exception. Life gets so busy sometimes.

Sally- That Girl! said...

Stalling the 5th, been there done that and will be doing it again and again by the rate of our adoptions!!!

We are wiser than with 1 through 4!!! Sorry 5 through 10!