Hubby and I have settled into this little routine with the three kids at home- it is oh, so manageable and even though we don't get out a lot we spend lots of time together. Since the Christmas season/vacation has started things have changed. We have noticed that our older kids really want us, they want our time, our listening ears and heaven forbid even our opinion (as long as it doesn't veer to far off of theirs!)!
At first it was slightly bothersome - after all, we had our routine- but quickly it turned into a joy. Their response to us is immediate and appreciative. They love the time and attention they are getting from us. We are enjoying it too! It is great conversation and we get the opportunity to guide them. For me it is an opportunity for us to pray through their situations and let them/us see God at work.
I think it is so healthy to have the ebb and flow of relationships. For them to know their are time they get and times the need to give. When a family member needs someone there are sibs galore for them to choose from and eager parents to help. As we adopt in our family their are also times that they are needed to support their new siblings and even the parents! Whether it is an evening of babysitting or a few hours off during the day. Often times we have the big kids model appropriate behavior- I love this because they aren't always appropriate but when all eyes are on them they have to be ;-) !! Example- Johnny please make your bed! Thank you! snicker, snicker!
Hubby and I are used to readjusting. We change things around a bit until we arrive at a new normal! What a joy these kids are and what a blessing it is to have each of them in our lives!
Thank you Jesus!