First on the list are the bedrooms! We actually have two bedrooms that are close to being ready- Sarah and Anna are already rooming together. We just need to move Anna's clothes over! Anna's old room will be for Emma and Ellie. We will make a few changes but there is a double bed in there now and they like to sleep together so that should work out great! Except for the fact that now I am beginning to think of putting all four girls in one bedroom? This is where you come in! I need your advice.
Here is the situation- it would be so nice and easy to leave it as planned. Less cost, less moving, everybody has a little space.
Sarah would like to get bunk beds and have all four girls sleep in the same room. We wouldn't get them just because Sarah wants them but I am thinking it would be great for bonding for the girls. When Sarah and Anna came home they each slept with us for about 4 months. Em and El could do that but we all can't fit in our bed "and they all rolled over and one fell out!" We'd be certain to lose someone- probably Daddy! I think he'd voluntarily leave for a good night sleep! The other option is a mattress on our bedroom floor for the girls for the first couple months.
If they all slept together I could see that being very bonding for them. I am not to worried about hubby and I bonding because I am with the girls ALL the time and hubby is a very involved, loving, caring Dad. Em and El have already bonded with their birth parents and a foster mom- I believe they will be able to do it again with us and their new family.
My bigger concern is the 2 girls accepting/ bonding with their new sister that is near their age. Sarah is very excited about them but I can see them being not so sure about her especially IF she tries to separate them. That could be something so simple as playing with one and not the other- it could happen accidently and could cause bad feelings. I am thinking that Emma and Ellie may behave like twins because they have had to rely on each other for security for so long.
In China they tried to separate them and both girls shut down until they were reunited. They have however gone to separate schools, so that is good.
Sooooo, what do you think? Should we leave it as is? Will the bedroom with 4 girls in it be a zoo, without enough personal space for each child and cause more problems that actually helping them with bonding? Will it drive me crazy not being able to send children to their own room to get ready for the day/night. Or will we love it and see it facilitate us in becoming a unified family?
Please give me feedback when you can!! I so appreciate it!!