Friday, February 26, 2010

Being Sensible?

The other day I told someone we intended to adopt again after our daughters come home... I got "the look". You know, the look that says "why would you ever do that?" The look that insinuates that you are maybe a little crazy? I just smiled uncomfortably and went on with my day.

That same day our daughter let me know that when she met me she thought I was old. Ya know, on second thought next time I go to China I'm ditchen Katie and bringing a grandma, a really really old one. Maybe I been figuring wrong? Just think how good I will look with a really really old grandma next to me!

So that night I sat the hubby down for a talk. I was filled with sensibility- YUCK. I began to question our previous thoughts, I was feeling old, I did the "when they graduate how old will we be" thing too many times. I wasn't counting on God to lead us, I was makin some decision for us- you know planning out our future.

The next day, a decent night sleep, a few prayers and I completely changed my mind. Planning everything out, being in control(hahaha) that is no fun at all. I called hubby and said ignore everything I said last night.

He said "So last night I was the father to nine children and today I'm the father to however many?"

Yes, that's right!

"Okay"

Golly, I love that Guy!

Don't be sensible. Take a chance! Let God lead you and enjoy the ride!

22 comments:

David and Sarah said...

I love this post, Jean! And I just think that your hubby is wonderful--what a guy!! And another thing, you are not old. No way! Thanks for listening to God and not being sensible!!

Blessings,
Sarah

Are These Kids All Yours? said...

Being sensible is just too overrated!!!

thecountlessconklins said...

I love this post. We have also done the "you know how we'll be...? But hey who cares how old we';; be at least we will be there and they will be here.

Love for Lilly Yin said...

Love it!~ My thoughts exactly!

Mary Kate said...

I love this post...Once Shasha is home I know we will feel the same way...Oh why does the cost to adopt have to get in the way...it is the biggest frustration I have, having the money to raise the kids, but coming up with all the up front adoption fees...I admire that you can and will do this, Jean...You are my hero and hope we can meet in person someday!

Number 6 and no more counting! said...

thank you for this post. I am always questioning whether we still should be waiting.

Lea
xo

Angie said...

We have a choice. We can be sensible in the worldly sense (Ok...we've surpassed that with having more than 1.7 children), or we can live the adventure by following God. Isn't it exciting to be on an adventure? I had a feeling from your previous posts that you were not done adopting! Very exciting!! Now...if I could just convince my hubby to buy a bigger van...

Sally- That Girl! said...

Being adventurous is way more fun....listening to what God is calling us to do is SENSIBLE in my book!!! It is us that will get the pleasure of looking Him in the eye when our days on earth are over hearing Him say, "Well done my good and faithful servant!"
Doesn't really matter what others think, I gave up on that after we adopted Marissa. Now I think people actually expect us to keep adopting!!!

Chris said...

Blah! on sensible. We be crazy. At least we're crazy together. Reading Fields of the F*therless...lets you know what is sensible.


Chris
www.shallrunandnotbeweary.blogspot.com

Sammy said...

Oh, to make yourself feel great about the look.. google francis chan balance beam... This will make you feel wonderful for being crazy!! I should know we are adopting #9 and 10.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LA_uwWPE6lQ

Suzette said...

We have to have the best husbands in the world-they GET IT! Praise God! One of my sons just doesn't understand why we are adopting again and asked the other day where we were going to adopt from next. I politely told him that there was a new adoption program opening in Brazil(a country he loves) and we would go wherever God leads! Hmmm! I think he knew I was serious! I used to say I'm finished having children, but that was before God started softening my heart for the ones He dearly loves who need forever families!

Sophie said...

On the way to Bible study the other day with my dear friend she told me she was experiencing some female issues. After I suggested a pregnancy test she was practically in tears at the thought of the possibility of being pregnant at 46 and what people would say. I then reminded her of how old Sarah was when she had Isaac and that made her feel better. Well she's not pregnant, but my point is how we limit ourselves to the perception of what this world thinks is the norm. How liberating it would be to live according to God's perception of normal. Let's go crazy and surrender our will to God, oh how endless the possibilities would be! Your awesome by the way, I want to meet you in person too.

Gina said...

Thank you for posting your experience with Sarah. We just got our pre-approval for adopting a 5yo girl, and are so excited. Reading about others' experiences is extremely helpful!

Lori said...

That's great, Jean!! And I LOVE your grandma idea! That's hilarious. You will look like a supermodel, no doubt. Well, you already do...I'm just sayin. Hee.

kippi said...

We have just brought home #6 (4yr old adopted from China) and I am convinced that I cannot tell God that this is it - I think He must have laughted after 4 (we have 4 older bio children) and then 5 (adopted from China). :)

Your blog is such an encouragement to me - just found it recently. I can so relate to attachment and safety - we are going through some of those isssues right now! Kippi

Shonni said...

I'm so glad that you're a little "crazy", like us...We are just letting the LORD lead us, and we have never regretted the journey...and yes, at 46/47, we are praying and planning on more children, if the LORD wills.

Karen said...

I don't think you look old at all. Good idea to take a grandma though...too funny. We are only adopting #7 and we get "the look" too (and even some unsupportive emails). I agree with Sally that when we die we don't have to answer to anyone but our Father. He is the one we choose to obey and to please. And yes, I pray to hear "Well done, good and faithful servant" when we meet. And like Sally, some of our friends laugh when we say this is our last one (we've said that a few times already:-) I am all for not being sensible:-) I support you and love watching your family grow!

susieloulou said...

Oh, Jean! I remember thinking my sister was soo lucky because my mom was YOUNG when she was born - 23 as opposed to 29 - LOL. My baby sister who was born when mom was 45 really had the best mom of all!! You go, girl!

Difference2This1 said...

What a great post! I love it!! My neighbor who is a mental health counseler, told me today, laughingly, business is booming at her agency. I said, yeah, we'll be adding business to her industry as we have to get a mental health signoff for our dossier. I told her they will think we're fine going in- until they actually find out what we're thinking about doing, then we'll get the big old "crazy" stamp placed on our form. I'm thankful for my adoptive parent bloggy friends who are "crazy" just like us to keep me sane!! God bless!!

Gary and Michelle said...

This is the first time I have visited your blog. What a wonderful story you have.

Thank you for not being sensible but instead loving those that have no one. You are an incredible example to many.

Michelle

Acceptance with Joy said...

I love your spunk and you have a very good husband!

You can't stop until God says you are done.

:-P

Christine said...

Great great post! I just emailed it to my hubby. :)