Friday, March 26, 2010

The Last Sailor to Board the Ship!


As Johnny was getting older and his sibling were one by one going off to college he mentioned how quiet the house would be once Mark left. At that point we had been thinking about adoption, we heard the call but didn't know how or where to begin.

Once we got going on the process all of the older kids where very excited to bring home a new sibling, except Johnny. They thought it sound like an incredible adventure and all wanted to be part of it, except Johnny. Our Johnny was the last family member to board the adoption boat! After talking about it for awhile, he got pretty excited about bringing Anna home. Then we moved on to our second adoption. He wasn't so sure about an older child, especially a girl. The process took enough time for him to begin to look forward to his new sister. Once she arrived he adored her!



As time goes on the bond between brother and sisters seems to be growing! They have fun together! The first thing he does when he comes home from school is say hello to his sisters! When he leaves he always says "I love you" to them!




They have learned so much through him. He lets them know in kids terms what is acceptable behavior and what is not. His standards aren't always the same as mine! Passing gas and burping are okay but watching PBS at 10 yrs old is not- we've had to change to nick jr.
Staring at his friends is not okay but it's okay to hang out hear them if your not being annoying!
I do not know his definition of annoying?




They wrestle, give piggy back rides, play hide and seek, and so on! Did you know, a little sister comes in handy when you have a sore back!!

Johnny has been the sibling that has reaped the most benefits from his sisters- love and fun! What more do you need when your a kid!

Now we are in the process of bringing home two more treasures from China. Johnny lives his life, it does not revolve around adoption (like mine). He doesn't talk often about his two new sisters but he seems to be looking forward to their arrival. He happily moved his bedroom downstairs and never even hinted any feelings of jealousy or displacement.

I am assuming that this adoption will go the way of the others and this big brother will once again rise to the occasion. It is glorious to see as a parent!

Do you want to adopt but not everyone in the family has boarded the ship? Don't let that stop you! Parents make the decisions in the family! The children will see all the blessings of their new sibling over time!


11 comments:

Serving the King said...

What a great post! Thanks for sharing! Now if I can only get you to write one about how to keep teenage boys fed and full for longer than 15 minutes it'd be great! Are they ever really full?! Did you ever really leave the kitchen when they were all still at home? Help!! :)

soontobemomof9 said...

First, I LOVE hearing about your family! :) And your boys are all very good looking! My daughter was interesting in finding out who I was "looking at". :) OF course, she is 10. :)

Secondly, I whole heartedly agree! My children are not mature enough to make the decision regarding family size, and once they are... they will have their own life. Most likely the majority of them will have adoption and/or fostercare as a part of it :). At least that is what most of them say right now.

Adeye said...

Oh wow, I love that God changed his heart. That is such a beautiful testimony, friend. So absolutely precious. LOVE the sweet pics :)

Love and biggest hugs.

Karin said...

Awww...what a great kid! I love the pic of him giving piggy back rides. Your girls are blessed to have such a nice big brother.

Lori said...

What a great post! I love how God not only changed Johnny's heart to accept the girls as sisters but has really embraced them. That's so great!

And way to go with the camera, Mom! Great pics of siblings in action!

Hezra said...

so sweet. yes we HAVE had a small issue with the oldest. But strangely, when we brought Jackson home, I think he was the most attached and the most affected by the loss. So I believe his words of reservation are out of fear of that happening again. So I am praying for him to see God's heart in all this.

Tracy said...

Jean,
I dont know if Ive ever commented on your blog before, but if I have it hasn't been often. But I wanted to tell you that I love reading your blog. Its a comfortable place to be. I love your honesty and openess. So I just wanted to say thank you.

Shonni said...

Our 1st born wasn't so sure at the 1st time we adopted if he could love a "stranger". He quickly feel in love with Kiana and just as quickly requested a brother "next time". All these precious children later, even with him out of the house, he loves them all and seems to be proud of his family...he tells everyone about them.

klm said...

couldn't agree more!

Motherbird said...

Beautiful, beautiful post. Love seeing God's work in every moment.

Sheri

David & Janet Hurley said...

You are right-Parent's decide to adopt. It always bugged me that social workers have to interview the kids during the homestudy, and want to know how they feel about the impending adoption. I DO care about their felling, but would you consult the kids if you were trying to concieve a child--I think not! So why should they be consulted about an adoption!