For us it has been different each time. One we had this immediate overwhelming feeling- honestly, I think it was straight from God- "this is our child"! It was so clear- there was no mistaking it. He spoke and we listened. We were giddy with excitement! Another time I had that feeling and shared with hubby. He was accepting of what I felt and believed along with me that it was straight for the Lord! We will never forget what he has said to us and we are holding onto his promises.
Other times we have prayed about it and as we move in the direction that we think is right God has interceded. He has literally stopped the email that declined the referral. A complete feeling of relief came over us and we then excepted the referral. We took a chance and we are so happy we did!! There have been other times that we have felt like it just isn't going to work out and then our minds completely change and feelings of certainty fill our hearts!
And then other times we just can't get a child(ren) out of our head. We try to pray it away and we can't. We try to refocus but we can't. Thoughts of them keep popping into our head. Then our mind wanders- what a great fit they would be and wouldn't they have fun with their new siblings...
At that point we move forward and IF it is in God's plan it all works out. If not we can only assume that God has other plans for the child and for us...
There is a feeling- it may not come right away but it comes. It's peaceful BUT this may be new territory for you so it may feel a little scary. When I have those scary feelings I give them to God. I know all things are possible through him. I know that somehow it will work out. Their are no guarantees but I know he will be with us every step of the way. Thank goodness because we really couldn't do this without him!
Hmmm, we've adopted 4 children... IF you do the math you can see this doesn't quite add up... hmmm. Hoping to explain it all, a little more in the future ;-)
How did it happen for you?