Saturday, February 26, 2011

I think...

our family is wonderful but not everyone does...


I am learning that having many children can make it difficult in many ways...


We are not always welcome in many circumstances...


The larger we get the more it is apparent- it is kind of sad...


It is almost like being a minority or having a disability- we are just not accepted...


this opens my eyes to how minorities and people with disabilities feel...


If only others could see beyond the numbers... beyond the color of the skin... beyond the disabilities... to the abilities...


If only they could see the joy, the fun, the love... the hope...


I am guessing that other large families have run into road blocks also...


It is kind of sad...


But we will put our faith in HIM...


He will protect us from the opposition. He will guide us to exactly where he wants us to be and when he whats us to be there. 


EDITED-
okay, okay... so hubby just looked at me and said "So you are finally realizing that we do not have a normal family?"


"Ahhh yes, I guess" as I look at our humoungously large family photo that I have always thought was wonderful ;-)


and just so you know humoungously is probably not a word!

15 comments:

Kim said...

(new reader here)

I just wanted to say that I think you have a beautiful family.. and anyone who can't get past their ignorance to see that is missing out!

Wright Family said...

After raising our first group of nine, I have to agree with you. I loved those years, but I also loved getting rid of that 15 passenger van and being 'normal' for awhile. There were rare times when I would let people know me without telling them I was the mother of nine kids (okay, it was only once and I was in a jail cell for three days with 12 people and in the end I told them...BTW one of the best times of worship in my life)......I don't think people deliberately reject big families, I just think they find us overwhelming. Way too overwhelming to invite us to dinner. Guess we just have to try harder to reach out to them...hmmm, think I am preaching to myself here...Catherine

Sally-Girl! said...

I have been feeling this way myself when I walk through public places since I have been home with Gracie and to think that half of my family is not even with me!! But something about 5 kids of different races, one in a wheelchair and one with designer genes just makes people look to the point that I am wondering what in the heck are they looking at and then tell myself "I must look strange to those who do not know the love of our Lord!"

More the reason you and hubby need to move to our side of the states!!!

Angie said...

My hubby and I were just talking about all the ways we are so different from our extended family and most of our friends. Yep...we're definitely different...large, multinational, multiracial, ability challenged, homeschool, always looking for the next adventure...yep. But we're loving it, and totally amazed that God asked us (& you and so many other families) to do this!

Janet and Kevin said...

Oh, how I wish you lived close to us. We would hang out a lot! Even with three boys (2 of whom are Chinese) we get funny looks and not so many invites anymore. People our age are traveling and dining together but without us! But on the flip side, younger couples with kids are beginning to include us in their social circle now. So wonderful! Just this evening we will be with our small group which consists of young couples with small children. (Most of these parents we could be parents of! Hee, hee!) They welcome us and many are starting to think about adoption!! Yippee Jesus! God shuts a door one way and opens a window somewhere else.

And our very dear friends close to our (advanced) age (who never have left us out no matter how strange we look to others) are leaving Wednesday to bring home their first child from China - a two-year-old son!! :)

Hugs,
janet and gang

Dardi said...

We got funny looks & sarcastic remarks when we were expecting our 5th child by birth. I think a lot of people thought we had completely flipped when we began adopting children. We, too, have seen relationships change, some even going by the wayside. With our most recent adoption, we didn't even tell anyone until we brought her home & then made a "huge, happy announcement" on FB & my blog. :o) We did that for a couple of reasons...one, we did not want anyone stealing our joy, & two, b/c we had really wrestled with this leap of faith. We knew what God was calling us to, but we didn't need anyone instilling fears & doubts into that. Sad that we had to think that way, but we felt like we needed to protect our minds & hearts.

The good news is, people LOVE our children wherever we go. For that, I am thankful.

Mom to my China Posse said...

Sad but true , larger familes like ours do get alot of stares and snide remarks. I always say if the worse thing anyone can say about me when referring to me is ":is she the lady with all those kids" I'm doing pretty good. lol...... Wishes we lived closer to you we could get our big ole familes together!

Shonni said...

Thank you for sharing this. We have felt this way and I am glad that their are other humoungously not normal families that are living the adventure of God’s blessings!

"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...

I LOVE YOUR FAMILY!!! And yes, as a larger family we are not invited to many things :) accepted is just not common. Oh well in big gatherings sure no problem, but we are not invited to smaller gatherings....well you know because it wouldn't be small anymore now would it? he he he

That is why we usually invite others to our home or our gatherings because sometimes it is less intimidating :)

Faye Verquer said...

Well Jean we "only" have 5 Children and there are many times we are excluded from invitations, weddings, etc... its stinks for our kids when the other family members are invited and our family isn't or when they hear of friends all getting together at a house and our family was no invited however we make up for it by having the party times together by ourselves! Big families are AWESOME and such a rare but extrodinary blessing. We love our big family and dream of the day we can make it bigger!! (keep that prayer going for us please!!!)

Hang in there, you have the most amazing large family and I cannot wait to hear of your newest additions and how well they blend in too!

Love to all of you

Faye

Karen said...

We only have 7 children (13 and under) and I can totally relate:-) It's gotten to the point that we have decided that if we want to get together with another family we invite them over. It's a lot less stressful for us if our kiddos are in their own environment anyway. We are also teaching our children that as a large family we will draw stares so it is up to them to show good behavior and Christlike actions so they can be witnesses to others.

FWIW, I think your family looks perfect, but there is still room in your family picture for a few more:-)

Jennifer said...

Humongously is a great word!!! What IS normal anyway? We struggled with this as well but have accepted that our family culture comes from above! Really? Would any of us have it any other way? Celebrating "different" together with you. Lonely sometimes? Yes, but so worth it to love these treasures from heaven.

Laura L. said...

May God bless you for answering his call and bring home all of those China treasures. You have been uniquely gifted and you will be infinitely blessed.

I cannot imagine having all of the joy and blessings that all of your children must provide on a daily basis. We only have 4 kids "so far". I hope that all of that joy that you receive from being such a large family will far outweigh the times that you might be left out of a gathering or etc. (Hope that makes sense.)

You will forever be humongously blessed!

Sammy said...

Come to think about it you're right. LOL Oh well, if people have a problem with my large family they are not my kind of people anyway. I know I am doing what I want to and I know God is pleased. I will say I don't take a lot of stuff off people, for example if we go into a restaurant I don't let them take forever to seat us just because we have lot of kids. I don't think it makes us second class. : - )

TanyaLea said...

I love everything about your "humoungously large family" ...and you're about to go from "humoungous" to "GINORMOUS"... and YES, I think they're both words... wonderful, beautiful words!! You're all welcome at my home anytime!!! :)