Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Abuse... comes in many forms...

I am contemplating posting this...

I have mention before that our little neighborhood has had challenges but for the most part I have not shared the details with you. I don't share them with you because I felt like it was tacky. God places these challenges before us and I knew that with His help HE would win over evil.

But once again evil has reared it's ugly head and once again I bring my offerings to the Lord and pray for this person for his family. Especially his family... I am concerned for his wife and children.

When I pulled up into our driveway our 6 treasures got out of the van and joyfully ran over to their little friend! She is 3 yrs old and was delighted to see the children.

Childrens' heart are so pure, so beautiful. I think that is why I love them so much. The radiate an innocence that is like no other.

They are so different from adults...

Our neighbors have a doberman puppy- about 9 months old. Sam and Ava do not always no how to behave around dogs and ran from the him. He chased them and leapt and nipped at their faces. I quickly went over to tell them not to run from the dog and to let our neighbors know that we all need to be careful. I had no anger, no attitude, no other agenda.

The wife was fine with everything but the husband was not. I did not even open my mouth and was immediately verbally attacked. I was completely shocked and dismayed-I had no idea he harbored so much anger. Jim and I make it a point to be nice to everyone.

In all the years we have been married never have I been talked to this way. It was very sad... I said his name a few times and told him to stop. The children were standing there listening to him and their jaws were dropped. His own child loves our children and yet right in front of them... he went on and on.

He complained about the children, he said things that were so untrue, he attacked us personally and he wasn't correct with anything he said. He went on and on and then when I said stop he mocked me saying stop.

Friends there were so many things I could have said but held my tongue. I knew anything I would have said would have fallen on deaf ears and this was not just my personal battle but much more- this was a spiritual battle.

His wife was teary eyed. I was in shock and finally told him that he was being verbally abusive and he needed to stop right away. I immediately sent the children inside.

And then he verbally attacked our children. He said they were not normal, they were weird. Of course that wasn't all he said but does it even matter.

How can any adult say anything like that about a child? Any Child? It makes me sick...

Evil rears itself in many ways and many forms and today I came face to face with it...

Please say prayers!

39 comments:

Jodi said...

oh Jean!! This breaks my heart! What is this man doing to your family and his. Praying for him!

Chad and Kristy said...

Wow, praying for you, for him, and his family. This situation really breaks my heart. May God open his eyes to the truth and I do pray one day he will experience the joy of Christ.

Angie said...

Oh, Jean, I am so sorry that you and your children had to go through this. However difficult, you did the right thing. Proverbs tells us over and over that reason falls on deaf ears when dealing with a fool. What a good witness you were for your children!

Lori said...

Jean - what to do except pray this person gets help. I worry what his poor family is subjected to. Your example was also witnessed by your kids and his family, so that light was shown into the world of darkness surrounding him.

Mom to my China Posse said...

Oh My! I am praying for you and for God to get it side your neighbors heart. Good for you you held your tongue and was so calm, its times Like that I loose it. I have that Momma bear thing and if someone attacks my kids I lose it. Its good you took the high road. I know thats hard sometimes. Praying for your neighbor.

Susan A said...

I am so sorry that you had to face the misery in the man's heart. It's obvious that he did not know Christ for if he did, he would love as He loved. Will pray for him, and also for the Lord to restore to you the peace and joy of being in His will/way.

Nancy said...

Oh my word. I'm speechless. And scared. Keep us posted.

Vicky said...

Wow! To be so full of anger, how sad! I pray that God would touch this man's heart. Not only for him, but for his family and neighbors.

I'm sorry that you had to deal with him and that your children had to see this awful behavior. I pray that his family will be safe and yours too!

It seems you have such a great opportunity to minister love to this wife that must be existing in a "living hell." I am sure she could use the love of Christ ministered to her.

Lori said...

Oh Jean...I am so sorry this happened. What a nightmare your neighborhood saga continues to be. I admire your self-control in not letting loose on the guy.

Thanks for sharing...it lets us all know how to pray for you...AND it brings to light the darkness of this spiritual attack.

PRAYING!!

Barbara said...

If he was that verbally abusive perhaps you should calll some kind of athority he IS abusing his child maybe theres a social service or child protection agency that would get involved

Sophie said...

This is terrible that you were attacked in such a mean and ugly way. I feel so sad for his wife and child, he isn't setting a good example.

I know it hurts Jean but you have to look at it this way, he is a mean and bitter man and for whatever reason he unleashed on you.

It's very unfortunate that you have to have a neighbor like this, it makes me wonder how nasty he is to his family.

Praying that the Lord softens his heart, maybe this is an opportunity to minister to his wife.

Blessings

Annie said...

Oh Jean, how horrible! I think I would have dissolved into tears of anger and hurt!! Good for you for keeping your cool in the face of such blatant evil!! Oh my goodness! I will be praying for this man and his family!!!

Jolene said...

That just makes me sick...seriously ill in my stomach. We had some hostility recently from a neighbor of ours (nothing even close to the abuse you endured). The devil is on the prowl. He does NOT want you enjoying your children...he is on the warpath to kill, steal, and destroy.

Praying for your neighbors heart. I feel so bad for his wife and daughter, you had a glimpse to the abuse they endure as well on a daily basis. They are on our prayer list.

Shonni said...

I am so sorry for you all!!!!!!!!
And praying for you too.

Nancy said...

So, so sorry to hear about this, Jean. You did way better than I would have under similar circumstances. Paying for you and your neighbors.

Jennifer said...

Oh Jean, oh my. I am so sorry you had to go through that. I'll be praying for you, and the neighbors. I hope the man caught a glimpse of our Lord Jesus through your actions.

Hezra said...

I am crying for you sweet sister. I am so sorry that this happened! And that the kids saw it! I pray their little hearts and minds are protected. I am agreeing that his wife and child need protection too! I hope you know your family will be in our family's prayer time tonight. (hugs)

Pam said...

Unbelievable. And to think he spewed all that hatred IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN. And yet, what a wonderful witness you were in spite of it all.

Praying blessings over your sweet family, Jean.

Julie said...

Oh my gosh, my heart breaks for you. People can be so ugly and mean spirited that I just can't comprehend it. If it is any consolation to you, my biological child who is typical in every way, was the brunt of some horrid words two weeks ago at a birthday party. My little one is 7 and another mother at the birthday party, in front of every. single. person. there, told me that my daughter is not cute, there is something wrong with her features, and she just can't continue to tell me everything else that's wrong with her lest I be offended. Like I wasn't offended already? My heart was broken for my daughter. She is beautiful to me and I wouldn't call her stunning, but she is far from unattractive. She is incredibly beautiful on the inside as well and I was blown away. I didn't really respond because I mean really, what do you say? I came home and cried for two days at the assault that satan had leveled against my daughter. It's not against flesh and blood that we battle and those hateful words have to come from satan himself.

Don't for a second give room to those lies. Your character, strength, and beauty shine through the words you write. I have no doubt that you love your children and care for them. I am so so sorry that you had to hear, as did they, such ugliness. The thing is though, with someone that vile he likely would have attacked your children in some way if they were perfect. It's his issue. :(

kimjax said...

So sorry, Jean. You have a beautiful family, inside and out, and it's sad that any adult could behave so cruelly. His poor child.

From the Erben Gang..... said...

speechless. so so utterly horrible for you and your children. you must be shaking-to say the least. but you and your children know the TRUTH.

his poor family. maybe YOU were meant to hear. maybe in the big picture something good could come out of it. The wife, in some respects, must have some relief that someone knows her horrible secret and can pray for her.

Cari said...

Sounds like spiritual warfare for sure with old Evil himself trying to punch you right in the gut! It reminds me of why we need to put on our "armor" everyday...Ephesians 6. That's so awful that he wouldn't even hold his tongue in front of the children. I'm sorry that you had to endure that, Jean.

The Heald Family said...

I am so sorry you and the kids had this horrible experience! Heartbreaking!
I would love to be your neighbor:)

Sue said...

Jean,
I am so sorry to hear that happen, especially when it happens in front of the children. I also commended you that you kept yourself calm, that you children saw that and can see that even when a person showing the evil side, you show the love side. I will pray for everyone involve and hope things between his little daughter and your children will be able to continue

living4him5 said...

Oh my how terrible for you and the children. I will be praying for the situation & for his wife and children.

Sally-Girl! said...

Speechless, disgusted and feel terrible for my loving friend!!

Will pray for God to turn his heart of stone into one of compassion! Little did he know that when he was lashing his tongue, that you would fight back with blog power and people praying for him all over the country!!

See God won!!

Karin said...

I am so sorry you had to experience this. :( I will definitely say a prayer right now and trust that God will give you wisdom. It makes me so sad to hear how his wife was in tears because of his anger. Reminds me of the story of Nabal (the fool) and how his wife Abigail saved the whole household from King David. Maybe God will give you opportunities to minister to her and her daughter.

Holly said...

Oh my goodness! Some things are just unbelievable to me! Praying for this man. He is obviously in great need of Jesus.

Ironsan said...

I am shocked!! How anyone could attack you and your children like that is beyond my comprehension. I will be praying for him and his family. The anger he has is not about it, it is so much bigger than that.

Number 6 and no more counting! said...

just terrible. really terrible. I am sorry you had to go through this.

lea
xo

Sammy said...

He and his dog are unsafe. The man is a hater. You handled it well. Be careful and keep praying for him. Makes my neighbor problems not seem so bad. : - )

Hunan Mommy said...

How can someone be so blatantly cruel? Horrible!

Suzy said...

How I hope this was out of character for him and never, ever reoccurs. May the Holy Spirit minister to him in a powerful way.

Difference2This1 said...

I'm so sorry you had to experience this :(

I'd hate to be his wife...she is gonna cringe everytime she leaves the house, I'd guess.

When that day of reckoning happens and he's reviewing his deeds with the man upstairs, THAT is gonna be a hard one to explain.

Prayers that the day comes that he 1) moves or 2) feels deep, deep regret for what was said and NEVER does it again to anyone.

Prayers for you today...
Jennifer

Karen said...

Oh my!!! I am so very sorry that you and your precious treasures had to be exposed to that. It makes it so hard when they are in the neighborhood. Praying for peace in your neighborhood.

rachel said...

Your, your husband and your children are all inspiring, wonderful people. I am hoping you can forget the things this man said. You have such a good heart!

Nicole A. said...

Ohmyword! I am so sorry for you and the kids. Way to go, though, being the bigger person, being brave, and setting such a good example for your kids. How dare anyone speak that way to any child, about any child, and with children standing right there!

How terrible that this person lives in your neighborhood; I hope you are able to move on and be OK. It's his issue, not yours. And I am sure that his poor family must get the brunt of that treatment, too. So very sad.

All the best,
Nicole A., now in LA

Acceptance with Joy said...

What is wrong with people?? That makes me SOOOO SAD. Makes you wonder what happened to him in his past that he is carrying around such hatred and anger. Poor family - both yours and his.

Julie, who told her story here in the comments. WOW! I can't even imagine the horror of sitting there hearing someone talk about a child - anybody's child, let alone my own, like that in front of them. I hope someone stuck up for the poor child and put her in her place.

Yvette said...

I am so sorry for you and for your family. THe saddest part though is this is how he must treat his own sweet wife and daughter. AND they don't have the resources or strength. THose two atleast are blessed to see what a "normal" lovving family is like and hopefully they can emulate it someday. Prayers all around.