Saturday, September 6, 2014

Momma's and Their Babies...



Our time with Katie and Emily was beyond wonderful!
It is such a joy to see them!
We are so thankful they are in the USA now!


Emily is working on sitting up!
It looks like we are going to need to work on our core muscles!
You and me both, baby!


The children are in awe of Emily!


They just can't take their eyes off her…


I have to be honest…
they closely watch Katie and how she interacts and cares for Emily.
They learn through watching…
BUT
the also grieve for the love, the care and the TLC that they did not get as a baby.
Some of the kids are very verbal about it while others are quiet and seem to be processing it all in their head.


Especially Sarah and Mia…
It takes them a few hours to days to warm up and want to be part of the excitement.
My natural inclination is to protect them- don't talk about it and don't think about it…
 but it is best for them to see how parents love and teach their babies.
I reassure them how loved they were and are!


They seldom bring up their birth parents but after talking to a friend we(Hubby and I) have decided to be more proactive in discussing their past.

I would have thought if they don't talk about- then we won't bring it up
BUT
it has been brought to my attention that ALL adopted children/ teens/ young adults at some point will have to deal with the issues of abandonment.


In the beginning I didn't feel we were secure enough in our relationship to discuss it in depth.
And I mean me as well as them...


But we all have come a long way and we are secure and we are ready to discuss some of the hard topics.
I wish I had answers for them, but I don't.


We have reassurance, we have love, we have prayer and we have hope that each one will be able to work through their thoughts and concerns in a healthy way.


There is nothing like a Momma and her baby!
Whether it's through adoption or through birth…

It's just a beautiful thing no matter which way it happens!


It helped Sarah to be able to hold Emily and to be part of helping her instead of watching from the sidelines…


So thankful for this precious young family!



















8 comments:

Sarah said...

Jeanne, this is such a beautiful post. I'm so thankful for your heart and your sensitivity to your precious children. And that baby is just adorable!!!

Janet and Kevin said...

Beautiful post about your beautiful children and grandchild. You are so right. Our children adopted from hard places do grieve when they see the love babies receive from their mommas. Breaks my heart to know that is what they are pondering. So wish Kevin and I could have been there to receive them the moment they were abandoned. I am sure your momma heart grieves, too.

Holly said...

Wow! I wish there was a like button for this post.

Kelleyn Rothaermel said...

How wonderful that they have you and your family to help them navigate these waters.

K said...

My daughter, now 15.5 and home 2 years, came to me in tears last month. After watching me with her new little sister, she said, "Mommy, at the orphanage the babies lay in the cribs ALL day. No one gets them up. No one holds them." The words that went unsaid, because she can't bear it yet, are, "Mommy, no one loves those babies and I was one of those babies," but I could see it was rolling around in her head. One day, I hope it will be enough for her to know that God loved her and still does.

Lisa H. said...

Loved this post. You might check out "20 Things Adopted Kids Wished Their Adoptive Parents Knew". It talks about some of these topics and the one thing I remember from the author(herself an adoptee and an adoptive mama) is that she encourages parents to talk about a child's history, because unlike other topics where we wait for the kids to bring up a subject, she feels that adoptive kids need the reassurance that their adoptive parents are strong and secure enough to have these discussions, that the adoptive parents won't feel rejected if the child expresses a longing for a birth parent, etc... These are the HARD aspects of adoption! :o(

Emily said...

Though the addition of our surprise baby has been incredible and wonderful, one of my adopted daughters has really struggled with jealousy...not jealousy of the baby, but jealous that she didn't get to be my baby from the beginning. She has even questioned, "If God meant for me to be in this family, why didn't he just let me be born to you?" I've reassured her that God has a purpose for her adoption, and that He will use her story for good. Because I'm adopted too, I am able to tell her this from personal experience. But it is still hard for her. It's the longing for the love she would have received from the beginning if she had been mine.

Sammy said...

I have one that likes to talk about her past and two that NEVER want to talk about it. I don't believe it should be pushed on the ones that don't. The two that don't just leave the room anyway, and I'm not going to chase then now and make them listen. : - )