Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Jacob and Grace- An Update



Jacob and Grace came home on December 21st.
Christmas came immediately 
and with that came influenza A for their new Momma.
Influenza A was not nice to me and took it's toll...
I was in urgent care for Christmas eve and 
rallied for 6 hours Christmas morning before returning to bed.
Later that night I was hospitalized for 2 days 
and it took 2 more weeks to fully recover.

Nothing like finally getting a Momma and "poof",
she's outta the picture for awhile...


 But Dad and our "little village"
stepped in and
helped our two newbies
where ever
and when ever they could!

Mom recovered and we were once again back on track!


Grace(born with spina bifida), was immediately
on the fast track to cathing herself.
There was no other option.
Her sister Ava helped out, thank you Ava!
I was too sick to be of any use...


Jake was so happy 
TO BE HOME!
he never looked back...
I think this is one of the MANY positives about hosting.
(We hosted in in December 2015 for 3 weeks through CCAI)

He knew us.
He knew our life here in the USA.
Nothing was a surprise to him.
His adjustment has been seamless!

Our only issue is we had so many Mandarin speakers 
he did not 
"need to learn English"...


While in China we reached out to
Dr Dobbs in St Louis
for Grace's club foot.
They responded immediately and 
within 2 weeks of Grace being home,
she went to St Louis with Daddy
to begin the repair!


This is a first for us.
We have never adopted a child with severe club foot before
but we knew many families that did,
so we followed their lead!


 Grace was thrilled to go with her new Daddy to St Louis 
and begin the repair!


 Between cast #1 and cast #2
we moved to Colorado!


Jake is helping Grace pop
the bubble wrap!

I fun pastime for ALL
the kids when a family moves!


Jake has been to the endocrinologist 
and we are waiting for the test results.
Once we have them we will devise a plan.

He is going to be 10 yrs old in 3 weeks 
and he is the size of a 6 year old.
On the growth charts, he is in the .25%(that's point two five percent)
 in both height.
In weight he is under the 1% but he has gained 6 lbs since he has been home!
It's not just his height that is of concern, he is physically behind in every way.
However, he is very coordinated
and can already ride a bike and roller blade!



They do suspect something is going on
but we need to do all the test and detective work to figure it out.
Praying for somewhat conclusive results 
so we know what direction to go in to help him.


Grace had the okay to walk as best she can on her cast.
Walking wasn't easy but it worked.
Unfortunately, we learned that Grace has no feeling in her foot 
so when we notice blood spots across the floor 
and a very happy pain free daughter, 
we realized that walking wasn't going to work...

Here is her sweet little left foot minus a baby toenail...
OUCH
is all I have to say...


After being in Colorado less than a week
Daddy and Grace traveled for cast number 2!

The first cast was red and the second was purple!
Colors are very important!

St. Louis is a short flight from Denver(and from Mpls)
but they need to get up at 3:30am to make the 6:00am flight.


Grace wasn't so sure about this part...


Why did we choose to have her club foot fixed by Dr Dobbs?
Especially when we have great Drs in Minnesota and Colorado!

Because Grace is 8.5 years old and 
many of the doctors in the USA 
feel that it is too late to correct through stretching and casting.
They want to jump straight into surgery.
Surgery is not always successful 
and in fact often fails and leaves the patient 
with only the option of amputation and prosthetics.

We know many families whose child have prosthesis and it is great!

However, we have learned that amputation and prosthesis is the last resort.

Everything that can be done,
should be done to preserve the limb.


The serial casting and stretching is part of the Ponseti Method 
and was done, taught and perfected
by Dr. Ignacio Ponseti in Iowa City.

Click on the link to find out more about him.
There are a few Drs that trained with him to learn this method.

With our first adoption,
 our Anna's BFF and crib mate, 
adopted at the same time as Anna,
went to Dr Ponseti back in 2007-2008.

God so perfectly orchestrated each and every adoption! 
We learned about the Ponseti Method 
many years before our Grace even came home!


It is very uncommon for an older child in the USA to have club foot.
They would be immediately repaired after birth.
In fact our oldest bio son had a mild form (metatarsal aductus) 
and the doctor used casting and special shoes 
to correct it between 2-4 months old (back in 1983).

But many doctors in the USA don't do this method for the older adoptees.
They think it is too late so they immediately recommend surgery.
This is exactly what the MN docs said to us 
when they saw Grace's file and pictures.

The casting process can be tedious, cumbersome, and it's not a quick fix 
BUT
it less invasive and it works! 
It also has a higher success rate than surgery! 


Everyone that works in Dr Dobbs office is so nice and so talented!
Wow! Progress already!


The bruising is from the stretching.


Grace is a talker!
She loved her interpreter!
They chatted away in mandarin and laughed!

Grace is such a trooper and up for anything and everything!
She goes with the flow and has a joyful spirit!

Like I said, Grace loves to talk...
We thought she would catch on to English quite quickly
but that has not been the case.
We can sense her frustration being between the two languages.

She is (kind of) trying to learn english
and speaks in bits and pieces at best.

My hunch is that she is a perfectionist and in time
will just speak English.
She is probably taking it all in right now.


The bump on her foot is her "fake heel".
The one that formed because she couldn't walk on her real heel.
It will take a long time for this to "go away".


 Everyone enjoys her wheelchair with her!


 All of the children have been so helpful!
Grace is so amazingly joyful!
She has a contagious giggle!
What a blessing she is to our family!


Cast #3 was blue and put on February 6th!


This is the removal!


With each cast we could see a marked difference...


Wow!
Look at it now!


She is very happy with her progress
and is looking forward to getting
pretty shoes!
Not one BUT TWO!


Cast #4 was pink and was put on Feb 17th!


 Yes... she is always happy!

Honestly adopting two kids when we did was not the smartest thing to do...

We were moving states.
Our older sons soccer team was in the final four 
and we were supporting him and going to every game.
Hubby's business was at a cross roads-
their product was about to hit the market 
so he had to travel to CO more than usual.
We had 14 children at home already.
We had to have our van modified to fit everyone.
Our dogs died... (3 dogs in 6 months).

There was a lot on our plate and we were busy.

There wasn't a lull,
a time to ponder an adoption.
The process was a blur

BUT GOD...
He knows, HE orchestrates, He strengthens,
He does it all and somehow the pieces of the puzzles fall into place!


My mom gave this to me many years ago.
It is such a wonderful reminder!

Did we question if we were doing the right thing adopting, 
while our world was swirling around us...?
yes, we did...

Did we do the right thing?
No question about it!
A resounding 
YES!

Don't OVERTHINK...
but your trust in HIM!


 This verse brings me peace instantly!
And because of God,
it all works out
and two children are forever loved and cherished!


After a series of four casts our girl was ready for her tendon surgery.
The achilles tendon needs to be released 
so that her foot can come up into a flex position.


Fixing Graces foot was a priority to us.
It wasn't the best time for us to do it 
BUT for her, 
it was the first time she had the chance to have it repaired. 
We didn't want months to go by and have her further damage her foot
and make her repair more complicated.
We want Grace to have the opportunity to do what our other kids do!
Walk, wear nice shoes, jump on a tramp, ride a bike, maybe even ski?


This is the pattern she chose for her AFO
(brace that she will wear on the lower half of her left leg).
Love it!


Recovering nicely after surgery!


And she's back home enjoying her FAMILY!


Our four... I mean five younger boys!
First haircuts in CO!
Sometimes I forget that we have 5 little guys now!

Grace and Jacob have been home for 10.5 weeks!

It feel good to have the children settling in!

God is so good!





11 comments:

K said...

There's a lot packed into this post! I wish I'd known more about Ponseti serial casting when I brought my first daughter home at age 7 and she was the size of a 4 yr. old. The doctors and Kaiser didn't listen to me when I told them that her feet were still like a baby's feet. Less than one year ago, now age 12, I found out my daughter has a genetic condition that delayed bone age. She would definitely have benefitted from casting. On the other hand, they also refused to do surgery, a blessing in disguise. It was hard to find out last year at Shriner's that so much more could have been done for my daughter's feet. At least the SMOs helped them grow straight after I sought extensive chiropractic care for her feet after Kaiser didn't do anything.

I am wondering if you had genetic testing done on Jake? Like I said, my daughter was very small, wearing size 4 at age 7 and 8 and it took until she was 12 to get answers. The endocrinologist was following her case and felt that as long as she kept growing and gaining weight on "her own curve" that nothing more needed to be done. Now, I suggest genetic testing to anyone seeking answers. Turned out my daughter had 11 genetic "changes" and three of them matter a lot.

I hope your long post means that you are settled into your new home and recovering from the move, not to mention the flu. My deepest condolences on the death of your dogs. Losing pets is so hard; all they give us is love and joy and they leave a huge hole in our lives and hearts when they are gone.

Laurel said...

Wow! What an insane 10 weeks you have had! God has been so faithful to guide you and sustain you!

PRAISING the LORD for all of the progress through the casting. I am amazed! (and for giving you such knowledge of the process before you even thought of adopting a child with this special need)

I wondered about the van situation. You were able to add 2 seats? Awesome!

I think of you and your dear family so often. You are an inspiration.

love & hugs!

Laurel

Lisa and Tate said...

Jean Thank you for taking the time to update life. I love reading about how things are going and especially for your faith and love you have for our Savior and God.

Zanmei said...

I LOVE reading about all the medical help you and your husband are giving these children. You are truly saving lives and giving these precious children a hope and a future. Grace certainly is an amazing child who looks like she will live life to the fullest once her foot is fixed!

Stephanie M said...

Loved, loved reading this update! When you did not post for a while, my prayers for your family became more fervent - even though I had no clue what was going on! I enjoy praying for you all! So very sorry to hear of all that you have endured - may the Lord use it to mold and shape you!!

Janet said...

Phew--I know you're ready to slow down! We have a 12.5 boy who wears a size 7. He had genetic testing, nothing showed up, did growth hormone shots for a year, no growth. He has hypothyroidism. After 7 years home, we just recently learned that thyroid function is tested on babies in the USA. And we were finally told that he is probably so small simply because his went untreated for 5 years....a very simple explanation that no one had told us before.
ANyway,praying Jake gets good news. Visiting your blog is always such a blessing!!

Caroline Clark said...

Congratulations to your wonderful family!

We did the Ponseti Method with Dr. Ponseti when he was 91 years old and still in practice! I know he highly recommended Dr. Dobbs.

Our daughter also had an extra "heel" on the side from using the side of her foot pre casting. The Ponseti method worked beautifully.

You are probably already familiar.....make sure to always have a Softie or soft insert for AFO's. Our daughter does not have feeling due to a tethered cord. Our first 3 orthotists did not order a soft insert even after commenting multiple times there must be something softer as she had a permanent bone growth/spur from lack of padding. I called Cascade in Wash State and they told me about the soft insert.

God Bless your beautiful family and new state!

Holly

mewohlwend said...

So good to hear that Grace and Jacob are settling in and that you're adjusting to life in Colorado! I think of you often and miss seeing you "around town" :)

ZetteLolo said...

a wonderful girl, a nice family !! You're awsome ! You're so patient, so tough ... I try to be so with my younger son, who came from China 13 months ago with cleft palate, not fixed ... now 2 steps fixed, he tries slowly to say some words ... we are so proud of him ... but it's sometimes so hard to say calm when people around you think / and tell you that he won't never speak, he's not normal, ... it hurts ...

You're wonderful, don't change !

Christelle
http//:filnotrehistoire.canalblog.com

Sammy said...

That was really interesting! God bless!

shay68 said...

Much love to you and your family Jean - you inspire me!