Do I share too much?
Do I share too little?
Do I share just right?
My purpose for blogging is
Do I share too little?
Do I share just right?
My purpose for blogging is
1. To document our life with our adopted and grown children.
2. To encourage others to adopt and not fear special needs or older child adoption.
3. To be real and share the joys and challenges of adoption and having a large family.
4. To share with others what it is like to adopt as an older parent.
4. To share with others what it is like to adopt as an older parent.
5. To encourage and support others that are going down the same path or who are considering it.
I am a nurse, a Mom and a wife for 33 plus years.
I sometimes say things that may be embarrassing to others but it doesn't feel embarrassing to us.
I know my children may look back and cringe
at some of the things that I have written about them
or their siblings.
I cannot over analyze every word
that goes into this blog.
For the most part readers
"get it"
but occasionally through a comment
I sense that others may feel I have shared too much.
Our life is very good
but I feel
it is important to share some of our challenges so that others adopting will be prepared and
will understand that adoption is not
all roses and sunshiny days...
There are everyday challenges
whether it is the child's or my own issue.
The important thing is to focus on GOD
and pray your way though the
joys and challenges.
I also believe that attitude is very important...
I sometimes say things that may be embarrassing to others but it doesn't feel embarrassing to us.
I know my children may look back and cringe
at some of the things that I have written about them
or their siblings.
I cannot over analyze every word
that goes into this blog.
For the most part readers
"get it"
but occasionally through a comment
I sense that others may feel I have shared too much.
Our life is very good
but I feel
it is important to share some of our challenges so that others adopting will be prepared and
will understand that adoption is not
all roses and sunshiny days...
There are everyday challenges
whether it is the child's or my own issue.
The important thing is to focus on GOD
and pray your way though the
joys and challenges.
I also believe that attitude is very important...
Having a child that is incontinent is no big deal... at all... to us.
And this was one of the special needs we feared.
Cathing and flushing are no different than you or me going to the bathroom.
Wearing diapers at whatever age
for "just in case" reasons
is also no big deal...
We consider it rather exciting that at some point-
when he is ready, he will be out of diapers.
Even now he mostly wears them for "just in case" reasons.
He is also too busy being a child to care whether or not he is "going" like the rest of us.
When he feels it is important to make the change
(possible surgically or through better maintenance)
then we will proceed.
It's no big deal to us to have an other son who was
"re plumbed" and is now
"going" like the rest of us.
One daughter gives herself a shot every evening so that she will grow.
Others in our home have cognitive disabilities while other have cognitive delays and learning challenges.
Or to mention that a couple of our kiddos act impulsively and we are working on reminding them to think before acting.
And our list lovingly goes on...
This is our normal and we love it!
I learn from watching and reading what others are doing.
Sometimes it empowers me/us to do something we thought we couldn't do or were afraid to do.
I believe others learn from our sharing, too!
If I don't share the ins and outs
the interested reader will not learn and hopefully realize that they can do this too.
Potty, poop, shots, medicine, blood draws, transfusions, dr appts, learning and relearning academics and safety rules, etc
don't bother us.
This is our life and we
LOVE it!
(This is the view as I open birthday gifts and the crowd get closer and closer!)
I'm a nurse so I could be a little off on my thinking and sharing when it comes to medical issues.
But we are felling pretty good about our openness.
Those that judge us or the children certainly have their own issues.
Our children are not embarrassed by this either...
At least not now... or yet.
Our children are comfortable with who they are and where they are at-
they are not subjected to the outside world that teaches them
that they should or could be ashamed of who they are or what they need to do to maintain good health...
I see no reason to be embarrassed by this and at this point they do not either.
The happily restock diapers and the other necessary medical supplies for each other when they arrive.
It's actually a breath of fresh air to have them be so open and accepting of what ever
their siblings needs are...
And this was one of the special needs we feared.
Cathing and flushing are no different than you or me going to the bathroom.
Wearing diapers at whatever age
for "just in case" reasons
is also no big deal...
We consider it rather exciting that at some point-
when he is ready, he will be out of diapers.
Even now he mostly wears them for "just in case" reasons.
He is also too busy being a child to care whether or not he is "going" like the rest of us.
When he feels it is important to make the change
(possible surgically or through better maintenance)
then we will proceed.
It's no big deal to us to have an other son who was
"re plumbed" and is now
"going" like the rest of us.
One daughter gives herself a shot every evening so that she will grow.
Others in our home have cognitive disabilities while other have cognitive delays and learning challenges.
Or to mention that a couple of our kiddos act impulsively and we are working on reminding them to think before acting.
And our list lovingly goes on...
This is our normal and we love it!
I learn from watching and reading what others are doing.
Sometimes it empowers me/us to do something we thought we couldn't do or were afraid to do.
I believe others learn from our sharing, too!
If I don't share the ins and outs
the interested reader will not learn and hopefully realize that they can do this too.
Potty, poop, shots, medicine, blood draws, transfusions, dr appts, learning and relearning academics and safety rules, etc
don't bother us.
This is our life and we
LOVE it!
(This is the view as I open birthday gifts and the crowd get closer and closer!)
I'm a nurse so I could be a little off on my thinking and sharing when it comes to medical issues.
But we are felling pretty good about our openness.
Those that judge us or the children certainly have their own issues.
Our children are not embarrassed by this either...
At least not now... or yet.
Our children are comfortable with who they are and where they are at-
they are not subjected to the outside world that teaches them
that they should or could be ashamed of who they are or what they need to do to maintain good health...
I see no reason to be embarrassed by this and at this point they do not either.
The happily restock diapers and the other necessary medical supplies for each other when they arrive.
It's actually a breath of fresh air to have them be so open and accepting of what ever
their siblings needs are...
I read many blogs and often have trouble remembering details about their family, so I try and do "recaps" when I write posts, so readers know what I am talking about.
Will I regret my openness?
Will my children look back and be embarrassed by what I have written and shared with "the world"?
Am I making a mistake by calling them by their real names and openly writing about our life?
I don't know?
I hope not.
Personally,
I am delighted that my children cath, flush, gives shots, take medicine, get new blood every 3 weeks and so on.
They are my heroes!
Their character is beyond their years.
None of this needs to be everyday conversation but educating
those who are interested but don't know where to start
or encouraging those who are living it
makes it that much more important!
If even just one child comes home to their forever family because of our sharing, it was worth it.
Secretly, I hope God uses us to have MANY children come home to their forever family!
All praise and glory to HIM!
Will I regret my openness?
Will my children look back and be embarrassed by what I have written and shared with "the world"?
Am I making a mistake by calling them by their real names and openly writing about our life?
I don't know?
I hope not.
Personally,
I am delighted that my children cath, flush, gives shots, take medicine, get new blood every 3 weeks and so on.
They are my heroes!
Their character is beyond their years.
None of this needs to be everyday conversation but educating
those who are interested but don't know where to start
or encouraging those who are living it
makes it that much more important!
If even just one child comes home to their forever family because of our sharing, it was worth it.
Secretly, I hope God uses us to have MANY children come home to their forever family!
All praise and glory to HIM!