Has caused a bit of trouble in our family...
We sent Emma and Ellie to public school this fall.
The girls had hit a plateau in homeschooling and were not progressing past preK for Emma and K for Ellie.
Both girls have a cognitive disability (Ellie is higher functioning than her older bio sibling Emma). Both girls have IEP's and are in a special classroom. Emma has a para with her all of the time. Ellie has a little more independence because she is more cognitively aware of her surroundings.
Both girls have a cognitive disability (Ellie is higher functioning than her older bio sibling Emma). Both girls have IEP's and are in a special classroom. Emma has a para with her all of the time. Ellie has a little more independence because she is more cognitively aware of her surroundings.
Since Ellie was doing so well they gave her more independence and had her go to lunch with her friend, get her food, eat it with her friend and then return to class with the other students when lunchtime was over.
It was at this time...
in October
that she discovered the infamous
Ala Carte Line.
Ellie has food issues.
She is often unable to control herself in regards to food and unable to make healthy decisions.
She feels bad when she realizes what she has done but in the moment she is unable to make good decisions and needs supervision and guidance when it comes to food.
Ellie is doing so well in so many areas that sometimes it's easy to forget her limitations.
So after a full lunch she decided she was still hungry and had 2 more pieces of pizza and a cookie.
The girls that share her room at home were amazed to hear about the
Ala Carte Line!
And well,
they ordered up some food, too.
So each day Ellie would
"take their order"
and bring home some treats!
They had chocolate chip cookies, otis spunkmeyer muffins, twix bars, popcorn, chips, sports bars, and well the list goes on...
Actually the list go on and on and on and on and on and...
uh huh, it does.
and this happened mid October through April.
Really, it did...
That means it happened October, November, December, January, okay, they took a little break in February because we were in Florida- but they were back at it for March and April.
Everyday after school the sneaky three(and sometimes innocent Emma was there) would have a feast in their bedroom, unbeknownst to me.
(Where the heck was I?)
Until one day in April,
I asked Ellie, "How did school go"
and she got a very very guilty look on her face.
She could barely answer me and didn't look at me.
I had no clue what was going on...
no clue...
In fact I even had posted on a tween FB group about my concern over our daughters poor metabolism.
One comment suggested more was going on than I was aware of. My response was - "oh no, that's not possible, I am with them all the time".
Hmmm, well anyway...
something inside of me said "look in her backpack".
So, I did and there was one innocent looking chocolate chip cookie
and so began the questions and the detective work.
The big girls did not share the depth of the
"ala carte line" shopping
until
I was able to see the printout in late May...
Hundreds of dollars were spent on "treats" that were brought home and shared.
And even more that were consumed at school by Ellie.
We know that this is semi normal teen behavior.
BUT
for us, the worst part was that the two at home
where knowingly taking advantage of their sister and her disability.
They knew that Ellie was trying "to make healthy choices" and
maintain her weight at a healthy level (with our help).
Ellie is 4'10" and is fully grown.
Her little frame cannot carry too much weight.
She is very sedentary and is only active with our constant encouragement and guidance(swim lessons, family walks, etc).
We just want her to be as healthy as possible.
So you are probably wondering how did we handle it?
We talked with each of the girls
they confessed,
they cried,
they apologized to us and to Ellie.
Ellie apologized.
They hugged Ellie.
We hugged
and we moved on...
The girls are doing extra chores and babysitting (for me) to make up for the money they spent.
Oh ya,
and
the ala carte line is
FOREVER and FOREVER
closed to any of our children!